How the Universe sabotages our New Year’s resolutions.
New Year, new goals.
I think it’s so weird how we base goals and behaviour changes around a calendar date. We’d better align our goals with everyone else eh? Because… um… because. Yup.
Well anyway, if a date inspires you to reassess, take stock, make changes etc then that can only be a good thing right? As long as you don’t forget them a month later and fall back into old habits.
So what are you hoping to achieve this year?
Right now I’m not thinking that far ahead. I’m more about getting through this quarter.
Some people, like me, see this first quarter of the year as a bit of a shambles because they have a child starting kindergarten which means weird short school hours here and there which build up over time so the child can adjust to the new structure. This occurs over all of February and some of March. Plus of course, all kids home for the whole month of January.
This morning I was working with one child drawing my portrait right next to me (stunning, of course) on my desk, in my physical and mental space, and the other one drawing on herself on the floor. Eventually they started drawing on each other, arguing and I had to throw them outside.
This, unsurprisingly, can wreak havoc with New Year’s resolutions. How much can you achieve with so many distractions around? Is this why resolutions at the start of the year tend to be forgotten before the end of the first quarter? Because… kids??
Mind you, some people have crazy distractions all year around. For them, the ideal of routine seems almost comical. With family members with special needs in particular. Where you never know, from day to day, hour to hour, what the future will bring. How can you reliably plot and plan in those situations?
Well, for me, it’s about not setting new goals based on a calendar year because everyone else is. It’s about setting mini goals that work for you, all year round. Goals each month, each week, each day and even each hour. Have a general bigger goal to work towards but let that guide your mini goals, not be your only consideration.
New Year’s resolutions are always so grand and assume things will go the way you want them to. In business and in life, that’s just not happening.
This month I want to enjoy January. The warm weather, the tennis, no school run, day trips with the kids, and some work too.
This week I want to tick off a few structural things for my business to start on the right foot, keep the kids alive, and do some work on the garden.
Today I want to not kill the kids who have distracted me 100 times while writing this, so now I don’t even know if it makes sense anymore.
And this hour I want to have some lunch. Mini goals for the win!
How do you structure your goals and planning for the year? I’d love to know!
Looks like Meghan Trainor and James Corden agree! Enjoy the clip below!