How the Universe sabotages our New Year’s resolutions.

New Year, new goals.

I think it’s so weird how we base goals and behaviour changes around a calendar date. We’d better align our goals with everyone else eh? Because… um… because. Yup.

Well anyway, if a date inspires you to reassess, take stock, make changes etc then that can only be a good thing right? As long as you don’t forget them a month later and fall back into old habits.

So what are you hoping to achieve this year?

Right now I’m not thinking that far ahead. I’m more about getting through this quarter.

Some people, like me, see this first quarter of the year as a bit of a shambles because they have a child starting kindergarten which means weird short school hours here and there which build up over time so the child can adjust to the new structure. This occurs over all of February and some of March. Plus of course, all kids home for the whole month of January.

This morning I was working with one child drawing my portrait right next to me (stunning, of course) on my desk, in my physical and mental space, and the other one drawing on herself on the floor. Eventually they started drawing on each other, arguing and I had to throw them outside.

This, unsurprisingly, can wreak havoc with New Year’s resolutions. How much can you achieve with so many distractions around? Is this why resolutions at the start of the year tend to be forgotten before the end of the first quarter? Because… kids??

How much can you achieve with so many distractions around? Is this why resolutions at the start of the year tend to be forgotten before the end of the first quarter? Because… kids?? Click To Tweet

Mind you, some people have crazy distractions all year around. For them, the ideal of routine seems almost comical. With family members with special needs in particular. Where you never know, from day to day, hour to hour, what the future will bring. How can you reliably plot and plan in those situations?

Well, for me, it’s about not setting new goals based on a calendar year because everyone else is. It’s about setting mini goals that work for you, all year round. Goals each month, each week, each day and even each hour. Have a general bigger goal to work towards but let that guide your mini goals, not be your only consideration.

New Year’s resolutions are always so grand and assume things will go the way you want them to. In business and in life, that’s just not happening.

This month I want to enjoy January. The warm weather, the tennis, no school run, day trips with the kids, and some work too.

This week I want to tick off a few structural things for my business to start on the right foot, keep the kids alive, and do some work on the garden.

Today I want to not kill the kids who have distracted me 100 times while writing this, so now I don’t even know if it makes sense anymore.

And this hour I want to have some lunch. Mini goals for the win!

How do you structure your goals and planning for the year? I’d love to know!

Looks like Meghan Trainor and James Corden agree! Enjoy the clip below!

By |2019-01-22T15:42:01+11:00January 10th, 2019|Resources for VAs, Working with VAs|0 Comments

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Virtually Yours was created in 2004 and is managed by Rosie Shilo. Who is Rosie Shilo?Since creating this thriving and ever growing network for Virtual Assistants, Rosie Shilo has become one dedicated business woman. Currently Rosie owns and runs ‘Virtually Yours’, a network for over 190 Australian Virtual Assistants which she founded in 2004.Rosie has mentored many new and experienced VAs in their business, and seen them overcome many hurdles to achieve amazing goals. This inspired her to write “VA VA Voom: How to become an amazing VA and every client’s most Valued Asset” which was published in May 2014 and has sold hundreds of copies to date. Since then she has also published ‘Reaching for the Stars: a woman’s guide to becoming a Stellar Virtual Assistant‘.Most recently she has posted a business book for all business owners who want to grow their businesses called 'The Outsourcing Secret'.She has also launched her own VA podcast ‘Outsourcing Mysteries Exposed' - find it on all quality podcast apps.

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